when you yell “puppy!” at a lil doge and they get happy and wag their lil tail like “yess!! i am a puppy!! a baby dog!!! thank you!!!!!!”
When you yell “puppy!!!!” At an old doge and they wag their tail and get all happy like “yes I am still a little doge thank you for noticing! !”
50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.
It’s awful because there are 50 Shades themed sex toys, the book has been advertised in men’s magazines as a how-to guide to figure out what their female partners want in relationships. And the author refuses to acknowledge the book portrays abusive behaviors and has said, when someone brought it up, that by talking about the idea of abuse happening in her books, we’re taking away from and making light of real life women who deal with abuse, even though many abused women have said the relationship dynamics gave them flashbacks to their own abuse!
Awful, awful book.
Pick your top ten ships without reading the questions!
1: Do you remember the episode/scene/chapter that you first started shipping 6?
Do you know, just now, I actually can’t think what it was that set me off? That’s terrible. I want to say it was the deleted scene from the first movie, before the coronation (you know the one!) but I’m fairly certain I shipped it already at that point…
2: Have you ever read a fanfiction about 2?
Honey, I’ve read AAAAAALLLL the fanfiction about 2. More than once. It’s a problem…
3: Has a picture of 4 ever been your screen saver/profile picture/tumblr avatar?
No, it hasn’t.
4: If 7 were to suddenly break up today, what would your reaction be?
Well they were never actually together (more fool EVERYONE) so I imagine my first reaction would be quite a substantial amount of surprise.
5: Why is 1 so important?
Because even people who don’t ship it as a romance acknowledge the relationship between Holmes and Watson as its own kind of love story.
6: Is 9 a funny ship or a serious ship?
Hmm…it’s probably more of a funny ship. Season 4 had some pretty serious/intense moments for them, but the best of them was always funny and cute
7: Out of all of your ships listed, which ship has the most chemistry?
Well I don’t tend to ship where there’s no chemistry, but if I had to pick I would say it’s strongest in 1, 2, 3 and 10
8: Out of all of the ships, which ship has the strongest bond?
9: How many times have you read/watched 10’s fandom?
Oh gods…couldn’t tell you. Definitely multiple viewings.
10: Which ship has last the longest?
Of those listed – 7. Started in 2002.
11: How many times, if ever, has 6 broken up?
Once. It was pretty bloody messy too.
12: If the world was suddenly thrust into a zombie apocalypse, which ship would make it out alive, 2 or 8?
2, because SuperSeal.
14: Is 4 still together?
Ack! Erm, well she’s dead (except they’re on opposing timelines so sometimes she;s dead and sometimes she isn’t) and he’s regenerated. So technically I guess no? Thanks, that one just broke my damn heart!
15: Is 10 canon?
Pfft. In many ways, yes. In terms of actual acknowledgement of a relationship? Not so much.
16: If all ten ships were put into a couple’s Hunger Games, which couple would win?
Ooooh. Well it would be a pretty bloody final battle – we’ve got demi-gods, geniuses, super-soldiers, super-seals, an angel of the lord, a man who literally cannot stay dead, an elf, a timelord…y’know what, I can’t possibly pick.
17: Has anybody ever tried to sabotage 5’s ship?
Aside from each other?
18: Which ship would you defend to the death and beyond?
1 and 2. I can’t narrow it down any further than that.
19: Do you spend hours a day going through 3’s tumblr page?
Lol – no, not so much.
20: If an evil witch descended from the sky and told you that you had to pick one of the ten ships to break up forever or else she’d break them all up forever, which ship would you sink?
9. I love it, but I could live without it if it meant the rest of them surviving.
Oh no. Did he start smoking again?
Noo Shan, why did you start smoking again :/
In a way it’s better that he smokes cigarettes to reduce stress and anxiety, rather than taking whatever substance he was taking to deal with his issues.
My sister just said the same thing, and I don’t disagree. As much as I hate to see him smoke, I’d rather he was doing that than whatever he was doing before.
MOOD: waiting for new photos of Shannon Leto.
I’m going to fucking cry.
I fucking love dogs
Happy 38th birthday, Benedict Cumberbatch! (19 July 1976)
Happy Birthday Benedict, have a wonderful birthday :D May all your dreams come true and I wish you all the best in the world !! -Pei
"I do not hate men, Sub-mariner. I merely know I’m as good as they are.”
FEMINISM: a definition
I need this as a poster.
I would adore this as a poster.
This was from like the 70s or 80s too. Marvel knew what was up.
"If you want breakfast in bed, sleep in the kitchen" I love that quote
I decided to host an impromptu giveaway and to bring a bit of joy to my followers because I have the feeling that there are a lot of negative feelings floating around the Sherlock fandom at the moment :)
As usual … here are the rules:
- must be following me
- ends August 17, 2014
- likes/reblogs count alike, you can like/reblog as often as you want
- there will be three winners
- the winners must be willing to give me their full name and address
- I will ship worldwide
- that’s it, I think, but if you have a question, go ahead and ask :)
Here’s what you can win:
- 'Colour me good - Benedict Cumberbatch' - Colouring book
- 221b Wallpaper pencil case
- DVD - Sherlock Complete Series 3
- 'I am Sherlocked' tote bag in pink
- 'I am Sherlocked' t-shirt in navy blue (girl XL)
- Cupcake covers (edible paper) - Sherlock/Benedict Cumberbatch
Thank you all so much for following me and good luck to you all, my lovelies!
Fucking signal boost this shit
This is one of the most horrific things happening in the world and yet I can’t seem to find out any news about it.
Ambulances are being shot by tanks. Doctors, civilians, children playing on the beach and everyone else are all being killed.